I was listening to a friend the other day about having problems with her man and it reminded me of a time when I went in too deep in a friend's relationship. It taught me to mind my business when it comes to things like that. It's good to be there for your friends through sticky situations but learn from your mistakes (or at least mine).........
As I'm leaving work, I check my cell and see six missed calls from my dear friend and roommate.
"I've been trying to get in touch with you forever!" says my roommate.
"Why? What happened?" I yell through the phone as my heart starts to race.
"Guess where I'm at?" asks my roommate.
"Where?" I demand.
"At my boyfriend's other girlfriend house.... RIGHT AROUND THE FUCKING CORNER FROM OUR APARTMENT!"
So not only is Dude cheating on my roommate, he has the audacity to have another girlfriend right in our own neighborhood. All I can think about is all the bullshit and heartache that I used to go through with the "boys" I dealt with but to find out that your man is disrespecting you by having another woman that lives just feet away from you is unimaginable. So I decided to meet my roommate who was already at the other woman's house. I knocked on the door and when I was told to come in, I couldn't believe how my roommate and the other girlfriend looked exactly alike! We were all sitting at a table talking about events that took place such as places they've been together, love letters, birthday cards and emails.
Once the meeting ended at the other girlfriend's house, we all decided to take a trip to his house. Luckily he wasn't there or unless he was but just ignoring the knocks and kicks at the door. After a neighbor threatened to call the cops because of all the ruckus we were making, we left.
The next plan was to constantly blow up his cell phone. Finally my roommate got in touch with him and spoke kindly as if nothing ever took place today and told him to come over. He explained that he was out of town taking an important test regarding his career and he would be back that night.
We decided to go back to our place -(BAD IDEA). I really didn't like the idea of everyone at the house for this confrontation because things can get ugly (which they did)! So my roommate and the other girlfriend are in the kitchen sitting at the table when all of a sudden my roommate gets up and goes into her room, gets all the things he ever gave her - every last gift and even some clothing he left and turned into Bernadine (Angela Basset's character from Waiting to Exhale) She went out into the backyard and started burning everything. My roommate is crying right now and decides to get a bottle of Clorox beach. At this point I stepped in because there is no way I will let her waste her life in jail for blinding the guy. Finally Dude comes in and he didn't know what hit him. They both dragged his ass in after trying to escape and they were kicking and punching and spitting on him. After seeing my roommate cry and remembering how many times I've been in the exact same situation I decided to jump in (yes I know I'm shaking my head too) and didn't feel ANY remorse at all. I felt he deserved every moment of it! Only thing Dude kept saying was "I fucked up" "I fucked up" "I'm sorry".
Some how he got away and the fight continued outside. That wasn't smart, didn't need the nosey neighbors having their "front porch sitting" asses gossiping for weeks. I eventually pulled my roommate to bring her inside.
Two days later I come in from work and as I was settling in I hear the door unlocking and enters in my roommate with DUDE. They were laughing and groping each other as they both went into her room. She didn't even look my way even though I'm sure she knew I was staring right at her.
After all that drama she went through, shit what she put me through!!! (Please note jumping in the fight was all me but I'm sorry - once she dialed my number and decided to use our home for all the drama it became MY drama!!) From that phone call telling me about his cheating ass to hunting his ass to beating his ass - she had he nerve to have his ass up in our place! She couldn't even give the man a week when even that's too soon!
I told m roommate after the smoked cleared that I would never put myself in a situation like that, even if she didn't stay with him. You go through all the trouble to hurt him but at the end of the ordeal you're only hurting yourself. Ladies, even you guys out there - take my experience as a lesson learned. Next time just .....
MIND YOUR BUSINESS!!!
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I know its best to mind your business but sometimes its a hard thing to do..my friend who is in the army came home for leave just last week. Me and my home girl went to pick her up from her house. Well as we pulled up to the house she was walking outside without any shoes on her husband was walking right behind her with his fist balled up. she got in the car really fast saying she just wanted her thing out the house. she closed the door cause he was comming toward her. My friend and I were in the car yelling what is going on....it was obvious they got into a fight and he was about to kick her a**. So i got out the car and followed her into the house so that he wouldnt hit her while she got her things...should i have just stayed in the car and let him beat her down..cause i knew that he wouldnt hit her in front of me...he wanted to look like a good guy so he kept saying "im not gonna do nothing to you just get out"..well in that circumstance i just had to get in the business..i cant stand a man that beats on a woman, he is just a damn punk!
Your story is a bit different, more mature actually and I understand completely. But how would you feel if the next week she asked you to help her move back in with her husband?
wow.... that's all I can say
Well, guess what. she called him 5 minutes after we got to my friends house. She called him and tried to talk to him. All i did was shake my head, she is still with him and she is not going any where! He is a loser and a woman beater and doesnt have a job...He used her for her money and is still doing it. He cheats on her and she knows it she found condom..lol
I want to tell her she is a donkey and want tell her to wake the hell up, I guess i should just leave it alone i know she is never going to leave him!
Dag, that's a crazy story and yet so real. We as women can relate to another woman's heartache so its understandable that you were there for your friend and even lost yourself in the moment. It's disrespectful of your friend to place you in that situation to then bring him around you and your space. Now, it's like the joke is on you. How comfortable can you really be in your house with that dude in your presence? Unfortunately, things like that change a friendship. What's worse about those situations is when the female stays with her deadbeat man but then constantly wants to vent to you about it!
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